Do you have friends? I guess you do. Who are they? Why are they your friends? Did you choose them, or they chose you? Is there any in particular that you're really close to? One whom you could regard as your best friend?
I believe everyone needs a friend, a very close one. Don't you think so? A friend could really help make life easier.
What do you seek in a friend? Is it:
Love - someone with whom you share mutual feelings of tender affection?
Loyalty - someone who's faithful to you, dutiful and devoted towards you, speaking up for you even when others speak against you?
Companionship - Someone to be your buddy, to hang out with all the time in all your favourite places?
Understanding - Someone who has the ability to easily and quickly grasp what you mean at every point in time, even when every other person thinks you've gone bonkers?
Confidant - someone you can easily talk to and trust he'll keep your secrets?
Tolerance - someone who's willing to put up with that mean and unlikable part of you, and still love you anyway?
Dependable - someone you can confidently lean or rely on; come rain, come shine?
Fun - someone with whom you can enjoy yourself, totally amuse each other and make merry?
Support - someone that'll always be there to hold you up, and keep you on your feet when your world seems like it's spinning out of control?
Encouragement - someone to motivate you and give you the extra push, especially when you'd rather just run away from the world and hide under the sheets?
Inspiration- someone to provoke and stimulate you to get into something challenging?
Respect - someone who holds you in high esteem and admires you for who you are?
Consideration - someone who's always mindful of your feelings, putting you first before himself?
I could go on and on, the list is endless. There's so much we want in a friend, as much as we dare believe we can get.
But you know what, it's so easy for us to put others in the spotlight, assessing them, checking them out to see whether or not they meet our requirements. Do you ever put the spotlight on yourself? We so quickly point out the speck in someone else's eyes, and I wonder how we could possibly see to do that with the big plank in our own eyes. Do you want to have good friends? Start with being a good friend yourself. Do to others what you would want them to do to you. That's right. If you're not a good friend, you have no right talking about someone else not being a good friend. Start with yourself.
(to be continued )
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